July 9, 2008

• “Wow! That’s a long time…”

  31 days

  That’s exactly how many days are left before my best friend & I finally tie the knot, light the candle, share our first communion together and more.  I didn’t know it at the time, probably because I was too naive to realize it at the time, but our engagement was a pretty long one.  I think I underestimated or not appreciated enough how a 1.5yr engagement would feel.  It’s definitely not like the dating/courtship phase as one tries to be more careful with emotions during that time, but the engagement phase…wow what a difference.

  Thoughts of oneness, team work, sharing, learning about each other’s quirks, communication styles, family dynamics, all of these things started to come into play during this engagement season.  Sometimes it’s a funny time, other times it’s more of iron sharpening iron.  I can definitely see why some couples might not make it through the engagement season, especially when deeper issues such as family and upbringing come into play.  Marriage is a place where those places of pain need to be exposed in order to ensure good start for the couple.

  Though this kind of work is inevitable, the greater gifts come along as well.  It’s been a blessing to have grown closer, not just to each other, but with other more “seasoned” couples who were so willing to mentor, listen, and guide us during this season.  I really don’t know how Sofia & I would have processed certain events without the wisdom these couples have provided…it’s just been amazing.    I also am grateful for the encouragement and continued friendships from those we’ve known for years, so of whom we’ve known since teenage years.  It’s probably been an interesting examination for them too as they watched us move from being acquaintances, to close friends, to best friends, and beyond. 

  31 days left…can’t come soon enough. 

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